生活中，你可能会因为梦想的破碎、失去爱的人等等事情而经历看似难以逾越的悲伤，当有人感到悲伤时，我们该怎么去安慰他们？我们自己如何帮助自己重新振作起来？今天，让我们跟着Nina Westbrook，一位妻子、母亲、企业家，同时也是婚姻家庭治疗师，来看看一些有用的方法吧！

　　词组、句子积累

　　1. dreams work out and manifest themselves in a way that we have imagined

　　梦想以我们想象的方式实现和表现出来

　　2.infertility不孕不育

　　3.a linear journaey一个线性的旅程

　　4.be proactive积极主动

　　5.literally detach ourselves emotionally from the dream

　　在字面上将自己从情感上与我们的梦想分离

　　6.a great time to pivot 一个好的时机去转向

　　7.keep healing at the forefront of your mind

　　保持治疗在你脑海中的首要位置

　　8.when it all comes down to it 当一切都归结为它时

　　内容梳理

　　01

　　如何鼓励他人

　　What are comforting things to do or say when someone is grieving?

　　I think communication is also important, asking that person, "What can I do," or "What do you need from me in this moment and how can I best support you," is kind of going to be the best way to figure out how to support this person.

　　沟通：

　　问那个人：“我能做什么”；“在这个时刻你需要我做什么”；“我怎样才能最好地支持你”

　　Sometimes they just want someone to listen to.

　　有时他们只是想找人倾听。

　　Sometimes they need someone to make them laugh or to help, you know, keep them distracted for a moment.

　　有时他们需要有人逗他们笑。

　　Sometimes they just need someone to be around them.

　　有时他们只是需要有人在他们身边。

　　It just really depends on the person, since grief is so subjective in the way that we go through it.

　　02

　　如何鼓励自己

　　1.You want to give yourself permission to grieve, first off. And it's not a linear journey.

　　首先，你要允许自己悲伤，悲伤不是一个线性的旅程。

　　2.The other thing that I think is really important is just to be proactive in the grieving process. You can seek support. You can't be afraid to ask for support or lean on others, people that you trust, friends, family members, coworkers, whomever it may be for support.

　　另一件我认为非常重要的事情是在悲伤的过程中要积极主动。

　　你可以寻求支持，你不能害怕寻求支持或依靠他人，你信任的人，朋友，家人，同事，不管是谁，都可以寻求支持。

　　3.And then making a plan, making a new plan. Mourning happens over time.

　　All of the emotions that were going through during that mourning process is we're literally detaching ourselves emotionally from the dream that we are mourning or from the object that we're mourning.

　　And what that's doing is opening yourself up and making space for new dreams and new experiences and new opportunities in the future. So goal setting and planning is going to be key.

　　03

　　不要为没有摆脱悲伤而对自己生气

　　Going through the ups and downs and knowing that that's all a part of it, you have to be patient with yourself, you have to give yourself grace.

　　悲伤的过程和经历起伏这都是它的一部分，你比对自己有耐心和宽容。

　　Then you can focus your energy and your time into that process and going through it in a way that is productive to your emotional well-being in the future.